You may be thinking, "What's so wrong with being healthy? How can you get shamed for being healthy?"
Most importantly, I would like to address the fixation with being 'healthy' in the first place. For me, healthy means an equilibrium of physical and mental well-being. While it's important to remember that everyone has their own definition of healthy, being healthy literally does not mean eating a salad. Being healthy encapsulates much more than what you put into your mouth; it's about your mental mindset on eating, being aware of the foods you're eating and how your body reacts to them, working out to keep yourself moving, your heart beating, and your lungs breathing- whether it's running, CrossFit, Orange Theory, Zumba, walking, etc, and taking time to care for your body. For me, that is what 'healthy' consists of. People take many different approaches on being healthy, but I think the most important part of health is the mental mindset. My journey has come full circle within the past year and a half because I learned how to balance. When I started to become more focused on my eating, rather than working out and binging, I learned the value of my body and how if I properly treated it, my mindset would change in return. It has only been until recently, within this year, where I stopped guilting myself for eating certain foods and I realized that if I want a slice of pizza I'll eat that slice, and maybe a second. I stopped fearing that I would gain weight from treating myself and started to appreciate my body for reminding me that I work hard, and progress won't be reversed with an indulgence.
Entrenching myself in a healthy community is something I pride myself with. I love working out, I love meal prepping, and I love trying new brands of food that offer alternatives and more wholesome ingredients. While this is and should be a positive a positive aspect of one's life, it's where I receive the most criticism and doubt.
"What are you eating? It looks like bird food"
"Why do you eat so much green stuff, that's gross"
"Is that enough food? You should probably eat more"
"You aren't having a piece of candy? Well you're no fun"
"Have a piece of cake"
"What kind of diet are you on?" (Apparently, the food I eat looks diet-esque)
"You're going to hurt yourself at the gym"
"You should be more careful with all that lifting...."
"CrossFit is so dumb, why do you do it?"
"It's unattractive when girls have too much muscle on their legs."
"You're gonna look like one of those women bodybuilders if you keep working out so much"
This is literally just a sampling of the comments people have said to me, whether it's coworkers, classmates, or acquaintances. I get that some of these comments are not meant to hurt me, rather just be funny, but there comes a time when the line needs to be drawn. There's a reason why I eat the way I eat and I keep such a regimented schedule per week. For starters: It keeps me hella happy. I feel energized, motivated, and proud of myself by the end of the week. Secondly: it's all about self-care. I find it important to take care of my body, it's literally the only body I have so why would I not nourish it? I just can't seem to wrap my head around the reasoning behind people who shame others based on their eating or fitness regime. It bothers me that some people feel superior to me because they think I'm missing out on something. Some people genuinely don't care about what they eat and as much as I would love to remind them how important nourishment is, I don't. The people who tell me that I 'work out too much' joke about the last time they stepped into a gym. Something I do remind them is that I am happy and that's literally all that matters. I have progressed, I have grown stronger physically and mentally, and I will continue to do so.
So, if you are trying to improve your healthiness, focus on the positives. Think of what works best for you and stick with it. There will literally always be someone who is against what you do. There will always be a 'doctor' or a 'dietician' (sarcasm) who will try to out their two sense in, but it's your life, your body, and your happiness, not theirs.